We have always put Landen to bed by holding him and letting him fall asleep in our laps, however, tonight as we speak I have decided to put him in his crib while he's awake, and he is SCREAMING at the TOP of his little lungs. It's only been going on for about 5 minutes but it seems like it's been an hour. If feel horrible and it is breaking my heart, but I can't hold him to go to sleep forever, what else can I possibly do? How long do I wait this out? I know that I probably should've started this earlier but it's too late for that. Any advice that you mommies can give me. I'd love and appreciate.
Ok so I have decided to edit this post and I felt so incredibly bad for my crying little man that I went up there, he had his head on his blankie & was still crying. So I picked him up, carried him out to our "usual" spot on the couch, he layed his head on my shoulder and within 5 minutes he was out.
So how do I handle this better?
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Gol, suck! The mommy in me says hold him till he's 18 years old! BUT, I watched some nanny 911 shows and she had some great advice. She said to put him in his crib and sit next to the crib on the floor. Do not look at him, but look at the floor. Every couple of minutes you are supposed to inch closer to the door. Eventually, he's supposed to fall asleep knowing that you are still "there", just not holding him. Will this work? I don't know. I think with Avery I did the crying in the crib thing, but I don't remember...it's been a long time!
ahhh,that is so hard! I watched that episode too that Jennisa is talking about & it worked after a couple times for them?!! I know I went through it with Jordan it was soooo hard I would always go in there and get him, When he got his "big boy bed" it was very hard I would have to sleep with him in there alot. So from experience it's better if you "nip it in the butt" now or it just gets harader!
I've learned the hard way (and it is SO HARD) to let Julia cry. It was making her more mad to have me comfort her some times and not others. It was too confusing. We just decided that she was going to have to figure it out for herself and she did. It "only" took 2 nights. (I started this during her first nap one day so it wasn't such a shock at bedtime when we were tired too.)
If you look back in my April archives I did a post called "Our Angel" where I solicited advice because of Julia's sleeping habits. I've been afraid to do an update post to share the good news that she sleeps MUCH better now because I don't want to jinx it. Too late now - it was more important to try to help you. I'm not superstitious anyway. :)
Good luck!!!
Here's my two cents: I've learned through my son, nieces and nephews, and friends kiddos, that it only takes a few days...if you're consistant.
The first time I laid my son down for a nap, (I too started at nap time so I wasn't so tired and run down) he cried solid for 1 1/2 hours. Finally he crashed and fell asleep. The next day he cried for 45 minutes...then 20 minutes...then the fourth day, no crying at all. He had figured it out. It was SOOOOO hard that first week, but in the end, it was definitely worth it.
They eventually give up the fight, and if you can refrain from "giving in", they don't get mixed messages.
Hi Kim. Your son is adorable. I am not an expert, but by experience it's best to let them cry it out for short while until they learn. My daughter is 3 1/2 and still sleeps in our bed and we made the mistake of allowing it in the beginning. It's really hard still. She thinks that she should get rocked, watch the food network with mommy and daddy and then go to bed with us. We struggle. She screams at the thought of her bed. It is our daily issue. I've rescued her too many times and we agree that we just need to do the tough love thing and then praise her when she is on her own. It gets harder if it keeps going on and this was our mistake. Consistency in routine does work eventually....thinking of you.
Oh ladies, you are all SO wonderful and thank you thank you thank you for the advice, I guess I will try it, I just love toheold him ya know? But you are all right i need to stop it now b4 it gets really bad
I agree with what everyone else said! 3 days seems to be the magic # if you're consistant with it. He'll get the hang of it soon! If he does need to be comforted after a too long length of crying don't take him out of his crib just talk to him and rub his back while his in there saying it's time for bed now. : ) At least that's what I do with Ella when she thinks it's still time to play....
Good luck to ya ; )
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