In case any of are wonder, YES I am still fighting the bedtime ritual we once/still have.
I am trying to be strong and work on it but some nights when I get home from working all day long, I do not have the strength to fight it.
Like last night for instance. I layed my babe to sleep, told him how much I loved him, hugged and kissed him and told him to sleep well. As soon as I left the room he started crying, "I want my mommy, I want mommy" so on and so forth. After 10 minutes (in which seemed more like 45 minutes) I asked T if he could see Landen standing in his doorway, he replied no. A few minutes later, I asked if he was out of bed b/c it sounded like he had gotten out of bed and came closer (mind you T was lying on the couch where we can see into Lands' room), he looked a little bit and sort of laughed and said, "Yeah, he's not in his bed. He is standing where I can't see him but he keeps poking his head around the corner" more laughing occurs after that.
I get up and go into Landen's room, and there he is off to the right, standing in the dark, holding his forever beloved "mi-mi" and crying so hard snot is pouring out of his nose. Do I feel bad at this point? Hell yes I feel bad.....
I give him a great big hug, tell him I love him and ask him kindly to get back into bed, and he does. I sat on the side of his bed, not saying a word, there was no back rubbing, no talking, no leg rubbing, etc. And out he was..... my sweet baby boy.
Did I fail the bedtime routine? Maybe. Do I care? Hell no.
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It takes time. Levi used to do the same thing. I would tell him. I will sit here until you fall asleep, but you have to try to go to sleep. Eventually I would tell him ok Im leaving now good night and he would stay in bed. Dont feel like you failed, you didnt.
don't beat yourself up about it. it took time to get to this, so it will take time to break it. you did just fine.
No, Kim- you did not fail. You did the RIGHT thing. Exactly what a good mother does in a moment like that..... she follows her INSTINCTS. You did the right thing, my friend. Sometimes you have to just let your gut lead you and tomorrow will be a new day. Who cares if it didn't go exactly as planned tonight- you can try again. Don't ever feel bad about doing what your gut tells you to do!! ;)
We've have had our fair share of bedtime blues (still do, in fact). I know hearing "it's normal" probably doesn't make you feel better and it sure has heck doesn't help the situation, but be assured that this IS normal and it WILL get better. In being stern, yet loving and sensitive to his needs, you're letting him know he's loved but that YOU'RE the one in control. He'll get it...eventually. :) Keep up the good work!
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